Hey y’all… I’m sorry for being gone so long! I’m an events coordinator at my job and we have been really busy these past few weeks. I’m off for a few days moving and running errands so I made time for this post.
I saw this post on Facebook this morning and decided to read the comments. Of course, I saw one I did not agree with and decided to share my opinion.
Before I share my opinion, I’ll post the status here.
This is how my parents operate, so I definitely 100% agree with this post. They will be married 31 years in July and it works for them. My dad pays the major bills and my mom took care of the home & kids. I never saw my dad going to Sam’s Club or Costco buying tissue or groceries unless my mom was out of town. For one, he didn’t buy the right kind. And two, he was busy working 60+ hours a week (he retired from BRPD in January 2016). Sure he made Walmart runs here and there but his responsibility was not grocery shopping.
I guess that’s the “old school” mentality because nowadays, it seems like most married couples are just roommates. Splitting half the bills. Half of everything… Everyone wants to be equal.
I know what you’re thinking… she’s single. What does she know? Not much. But I do know that most couples divorce or separate because of finances (and infidelity).
Years ago, men paid all the bills because women didn’t work (primarily, no education). Nowadays – women have jobs, degrees and really only need a man for their companionship and sperm (and that’s another conversation). BUT – they still make less than men, in most cases.
In an ideal world, you’d have 3-4 accounts. A joint savings, a joint checking, personal savings and personal checking. Joint savings and checkings are just that. Use them for fixed expenses, each person would put a percentage of their check into the account according to your salary, expenses and goals. Then the personal account would be just for you and what you want to spend it on. It would probably alleviate the “You bought XYZ” but there’s no money for the Uverse bill.
Bottom line, do what works for you and your marriage/relationship. But I’ll be damned if I’m going through each bill as a line item dividing by 2 with my husband.
How do y’all feel? Do you and your mate each pay $4.99 plus tax for the Hulu account? Is he paying $5 for your IPSY bag? Are you paying $100 (I’m assuming, don’t know much they cost) for his Jordan’s?