Why does society equate a woman’s beauty with weight?
I know some beautiful women who are carrying extra weight. I also know some uglass skinny women.
If you are a heavier woman then 9x out of 10, someone has told you “You have such a pretty face.” And because our mother’s taught us manners, we reply with a smile and say, “Thank you.” STOP IT! THIS. IS. NOT. A. COMPLIMENT!
It’s basically saying, “You would be so much more pretty if you lost some weight.”
Since May 2015, I’ve lost close to 60 pounds and every time I post a transformation picture, it’s always a couple of people who comment “You were always beautiful.” This is true. I am not denying that. But I was (and to some) still am fat. Tell the truth.
I know, I know. You may think it’s encouraging or uplifting to tell someone who’s on a journey to a healthier lifestyle that were always beautiful but it’s not… Becsuse 1) they already knew that and 2) that doesn’t have anything to do the number on the scale.
I tipped the scale at over 340 pounds at my heaviest and let me tell you – I just knew I was the the shit. I mean y’all couldn’t tell me I wasn’t on!
It wasn’t until I lost weight that I began to question if I looked good in certain clothing items. Which is ass backwards…
None of my friends treated me any different and I still lived a normal life. Sure I got winded going up a flight of stairs, but who doesn’t? As long as I didn’t need a seatbelt extender when on a flight, then I was good. I still went to the club and other outings with friends and let’s be honest.. I still was getting chose.
So everyone… Let’s stop thinking that beauty and weight are synonymous *SAT word for ya* because they aren’t. You CAN be ugly and skinny.
I’ll be posting more of my weightloss journey in future posts but here is one transformation pictures. The rest are on my Instagram @lets.bre.honest